A common point of attraction that makes an online dater become enamored with another is nearly always something that caught their eye in that person's profile. These little pieces of gold range from your eye color, your favorite novel, or your guilty admittance of eating pizza at 2 am—the list is endless.
The point is this: little tidbits about your life—little idiosyncrasies—that were once deemed insignificant can and often do score points. You may be asking yourself: what interesting little details can I put into my profile?
What are your hobbies? Use your interests to reveal the inner you.
Steve Jackson writes about his online dating success: “The first thing that caught my attention was her interest in Science Fiction novels. I don't know many women who are Sci-Fi fanatics like I am; she's truly a rarity. Later, when I found out that her favorite Sci-Fi author was Frank Herbert, I knew that the search was over. Because of our mutual interests in Science Fiction literature, our conversations never seem to get dull.”
Listing your hobbies is a wonderful way for a person to get to know your inner self. When online daters read about your interests, they are piecing together a puzzle to your personality, discovering a more complete picture of who you are. Mutual interests and hobbies are instant attractors.
Show that you're into the “now” with references to pop culture.
Nichole Levy reminisces about reading a profile that held her attention: “I remember watching the 40 year old virgin three times in the movie theaters. When Jon mentioned in his profile that he probably had everyone beat by watching it a record seven times in one week, I was on the floor rolling around with laughter. His profile made me laugh so hard—that was only the start of a wonderful relationship.”
Humor is the universal language of the soul—a healthy dose of it in your profile can only work wonders. An excellent way to portray your sense of humor is by comparing yourself to a pop-culture icon. Are you as fun-loving as Vincent Chase from “Entourage”? Are you sometimes as ditzy as Paris Hilton? People that can relate to your interests and tastes in entertainment will be drawn to you.
Make yourself stand out amongst the crowd by adding specifics.
Eric Cortez writes: “I loved the originality in Cecelia's profile. The repetition in all the other profiles was boring me to tears. When Cecelia mentioned that she was teaching herself how to snowboard at Mt. Baldy—no lessons and nobody else to show her how—I quickly knew that she was the one. How many women out there are brave enough to take on snowboarding without some sort of guidance? I loved Cecilia's sense of independence and determination.”
Try not to water down your profile with trite ramblings of “I love to eat out” and “long walks on the beach are the best”; it's all been said before! Instead, try going into specifics; what is your restaurant of choice? Which beach is your favorite? Give your profile a make-over by reviewing it and replacing what ever sounds tried and generic with specifics. By doing this, you'll colorfully illustrate your many attractive qualities.
Use photos with props to convey playfulness.
Jamie Hamilton recalls seeing a photo of Rudy for the first time: “Seeing Rudy posing with his little one month kitten was one of the cutest sights ever! When I finally met Rudy for the first time, I'd noticed that he was just like his little kitty cat—sweet, playful and very loving!”
Posing with your beloved pet, your guitar, or your surfboard can give others a bigger picture of who you are; it may even be the deciding factor on whether or not they make the first move. Visuals are an ideal way to quickly catch a person's eye, sparking interest, swaying them to read your profile. I bet your can think of something to pose with in your next photo. Have fun!
Give people a general idea of your issues.
Chris Martelli talks about what attracted him to Judy: “When I had first glanced at Judy's profile, I had noticed that she had just gone through a very bad break up. I had recently just been through a very messy divorce, so I thought we could give each other some support. It was very refreshing to converse with someone who understood exactly what I was going through in my life. After a while, our past relationships seemed so distance and insignificant; after a while our connection started to strengthen and happiness started to shower over our everyday lives.”
Always remember that you're never alone in your problems. People have a great tendency to show compassion and sympathy during hard times. Don't be scared to mention your current issues in life—express what you're going through. You may be surprised and find yourself bonding with a very special person who understands where you are in life.
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