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Online dating – how to use it to find love.

According to statistics, about 40 percents of all singles on the planet are going for online dating. But only a quarter of this great number really find romance and love. Why is it so? Everything is simple... Online dating, as everything in this world, has its rules.


It's a simple logic that some dating sites are better than others by their traffic, the way to navigate and the most important - some really work while others don't. Andone more thing that is also important – there's something to be done after you join one of them. In spite of the fact that it's obvious, it's pretty simple as well. Because of this, actually, 30 percents of the people using online dating services fail in finding their love.


Number 1. Creating a dating profile.

This is the most important aspect in using a dating site. First, you should take the time to say something about yourself, your lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you are looking for. You should certainly sound happy, upbeat, fun and confident. Also this is not the time for modesty; if you think you're pretty darn attractive, then be sure to say so. And humour is a real ice-breaker - if you can make someone laugh, they'll be more likely to want to contact you.


Number 2. Uploading a photo.

Even if you don't have a very flattering one to hand, you should always post a pic with your profile. Remember, about 95 percents of people on the dating site only search for other members who have provided a picture of themselves. You want to see what other potential partners look like so it's a simple logic that other people will want to know what you look like too. If your photo isn't recent or isn't a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile.


Number 3. Be Proactive.

Don't just join a site and expect other people to contact you – you should search the database regularly for people with whom you might be compatible and when you find someone you like the look or sound of, write to them immediately and tell them why you think you might be a good match.


Number 4. Writing letters.

So, you've joined a dating site, you've searched for other members who fall within your specified categories, and you've been presented with a page of matching profiles. You're going to write some emails but what will you actually say? Re-read the paragraph above about creating a great profile and apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another person. Tell that him/her a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible - respond directly to what you've read in that person's profile - sound interested and interesting and you'll get an email in return - sound boring and downbeat and you'll just be ignored.


Number 5. Checking back with the site.

There are two reasons why you should do this as often as possible. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since you last logged-on... that special person might have signed-up since you last visited the site so don't miss out. However, what most people don't realize is that when you log in to a dating site, your profile moves up the listings on the internal search engine which means that you are more likely to be spotted and subsequently contacted by other people. Don't be a stranger to the site you've joined and I recommend that you visit the site at least once a day during the lifetime of your membership.


So here are the main points of how to use a dating site to benefit from it. I hope you'll do your best and find your love.