1. First of all, it’s crucial you establish good eye-contact. Eyes are the windows of your soul, and having a visual connection with a women shows tells if she’s also interested.
To establish good eye-contact, look her in the eye, and keep looking just a bit longer than you normally would. If you catch her looking at you a couple of times, that’s all good. You want to get her attention, so stay connected with her.
But be careful not to stare, you don’t want to look like a complete idiot, especially if she’s with her friends.
2. Secondly, take a look around. What’s going on around you? At this point, the key is to find a topic, from which you can start a decent and light conversation.
Is there something special you’ve noticed, and that most people probably haven’t?
3. After a couple of minutes, ask her name, and from that point on, you can start to relax because you’ve done a great part, which is initiating contact with someone you didn’t know.
As a general rule, stay away delicate topics, such as politics, religion, ex-girlfriends and sports (unless you’re in a gym or you know she likes sports).
Try not to talk about negative things, stay as positive as possible. Remember, keep it light and cool.
4. So now she knows you exist, and that you’ve had a light conversation, you don’t want to be talking too long, at least not the first time. Picture Will Smith in the Hitch movie, when he’s at a bar.
He takes a seat, and has a light chat with Eva Mendes. They talk for a couple of minutes, and just at the peak of the conversation, Will Smith gets up and leaves.
And just after he leaves, you can see Eva getting up and looking in the direction he left. This is a great technique that successful daters use: let the woman have a peak and shut the door. The goal is to make her wanting more.
A lot of guys get good things going by having a good conversation, but after a while their conversation becomes lame and by the time they ask her number, she’s already gone, maybe not physically, but mentally.
I know this may seem crazy, but it’s a must. So politely thank her for the conversation, and tell her you have to get back to your friends/ family/ home, whatever.
Knowing how to start a good conversation with a woman is vital to more success in your dating life. Plus, displaying the right attitude by not showing her that you’re desperate will automatically get you more dates than you could have dreamed of.
