Romantic Candles. Get the kind of candles that come in their own glass jar with a lid. They are safer than the tall candles, won't spill wax all over the place and when you put the lid on they go out without filling the room with smoke. Choose scented candles with mild scents like vanilla or melon - or your wife's favorite scent. Here's a romantic idea: light them all around the living room - at night, get a relaxing drink and just sit on the couch and talk with her - run your fingers through her hair as you talk - and don't "expect" any action - if you remove the pressure, she will relax and come after you!
Romantic "I love you" Cards. Get about 15 different "thinking of you" and "I love you" greeting cards. Then - over the course of a few months, whenever you have the idea of leaving one in her purse or car or mailing one to her work, you can do it before you forget. Just write a short personal note in each when you send it. Here's a romantic idea: send her a card a day for a week and then personally bring flowers to her at work at the end of the week as a romantic surprise. She'll love it!
Romantic Bubble Bath. Get scented bubble bath for your wife - but don't give it to her - yet. The cucumber and melon scents are really relaxing. Romantic idea: make her a bath, use the romantic bubble bath and put some romantic candles (above) around the tub. Then just leave and let her enjoy some peace (unless she asks you to join her). She'll melt with relaxation.
Romance Incense. Incense can really make your home smell nice and create a relaxing atmosphere. Some incense in really powerful - I personally don't like those. I get the Angelic Series from Shoyeido Corporation - they are really mild and romantic scents. My wife loves them - and the gift box set from the last series has lasted us over 3 years now.
A Blanket can be Romantic. Keep a blanket in your trunk. That way, you can do spontaneous romantic excursions like stopping, laying on the blanket and looking at the stars on a clear night or just enjoy relaxing under a tree on a warm day.
Your Romantic Cell Phone. Yes - your cell phone can be romantic - just call her out of the blue just to say hi and "I love you." Romance idea: send her loving text messages at random times in the week.
Try to do something small two or three times a week for her - such as a card or note or a call or e-mail. Try to do something medium for her at least once a week - such as bring home flowers or make a nice dinner. And try to do something big for her at least once a month - such as a full evening without kids that includes a nice dinner, a bath and a massage - all truly from your heart with no obligations attached. Mix it up - make nothing routine.
Every once in a while, go a week or two without doing anything romantic except calling or e-mailing to keep contact. Then start romancing her again. She'll appreciate it more that way - it won't be the same ol' thing.
