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How to introduce sex toys into your relationship


If you have decided to use sex toys in your relationship, and your decision is firm, then nothing should deter you from going ahead. You will need the right approach to begin, but when you do, it will give you exhilaration like nothing else. Sex toys can bring fun into your sex life, and any sex expert will tell you that a light, romantic relationship is the best stimulant for good sex.

If you are stuck at how to bring those sex toys into your bedroom and use them, here are some tips:

1. Do not rush in. Your sex toy is going to be a tool of enjoyment for both of you. Do not make haste, or nothing will be gained by both. You must realize that introducing any external factor in your sex life – even if it is just a nonliving sex tool – may be challenging. Get started with something innocuous like lotions and oils. It is better to start with something that is not exactly a tool. But these oils and lotions can definitely improve your sexual bearings with each other. And they will pave the way from bringing in more tools in the future.

2. Build up a foundation. If you make some preparations for your sexual encounters, then you will surely find a more enriching experience ahead. Now you must bring in a real sex toy into the relationship, since the comfort levels between the two of you have improved. However, refrain from getting something drastic at the onset. Stick to simple and gentle tools which will be acceptable and safe to both. You partner should not be intimidated by what you are bringing into the bedroom, but must be able to enjoy with it. Get something simple like ticklers. These are simple toys that are perfectly safe, and at the same time add to the excitement in the bedroom.

3. The third most important thing you ought to remember is that you must not become an addict of the sex toy. Your sex toy is an external part of your sex, do not make it the third person. Do not overtly rely on this tool. Even when you are using a sex toy, try to discover new ways of making each other happy without it.

Sex toys are not called intimacy tools for no reason. They are like bridges to repairing a fading relationship. They can give you sexual satisfaction and at the same time build comfortable intimacy levels between you.