Having been in strip bars (some totally nude and others partially nude) in big cities like Chicago, Dallas, Los Angeles, San Francisco, and so on, I found my most memorable strip-bar experience while on a trip to Springfield, MO.
I went into this partially nude strip club and there was at least a dozen very beautiful girls with virtually perfect bodies – and not one single man was interested in them…
…because there was this one girl…
Comparatively speaking, she was the ugliest girl there. She was definitely chubby, had stretch marks, and her breast were smallish…
…and she was the girl that every guy in the club was lined up to see.
It didn’t take but just a moment for me to see why. In fact, I got myself in line as quickly as I could so I could experience it for myself. Here’s what happened when it came my turn…
This stripper gave me a direct look in the eyes that she backed up with words coming out of her mouth which she backed up with the movements of her body – all three of which said, “I absolutely want YOU so bad I can hardly stand it. I want to take you on a sexual pleasure ride like you have never been on before. I am your pleasure doll and no one will ever be able to please you like I will. I am your sexual dreams come true”.
What she looked like meant nothing to me. The fact that 100’s of other people were seeing me with this woman meant nothing to me. I was happy to be sharing the spotlight with this woman.
Now, isn’t that interesting? Kind of goes against the grain of popular belief that men only want the prettiest girl doesn’t it?
The “ugliest” girl in this strip-joint commanded the attention of every male patron there – simply because she knew what turned a man on and she had the confidence to give him what he wanted – and she understood that what she looked like wasn’t all that important.
This story illustrates an important truism.
How a person is “packaged” has very little bearing on what they can be, achieve, accomplish, and have.
An “average” person with the right attitudes within them, combined with the ability to direct those right attitudes at other people in the right way will, in the long-run, win out over a “pretty” person who does not have the right attitudes and who is self-centered.
In other words, the strippers in the above story who were “packaged” better (better looking) couldn’t touch the stripper who wasn’t “packaged” as well (not as good looking) but who was confident enough in herself to give others what they wanted.
What this means to you is that your attitude and perspective towards your man is far more valuable, important, and attractive to him than any physical traits you may or may not possess.
Certainly, you should continue to strive to be as attractive as you can. But, all you can do is all you can do. When you’ve done your best on your appearance, then your attitude, confidence, and perspective is all you need to “get you the rest of the way home” in terms of keeping your man’s attention.
Now, you may view this concept of the “anatomical packaging being unimportant” as suspect so let me ask you a question?
Have you ever known or heard of a man or woman leaving/divorcing their companion for someone who wasn’t nearly as attractive as their first companion was?
Of course you have.
Why would a rational person do this?
Because the new, “ugly” companion knew what the “ugly” stripper in this story knew – if I can confidently give my companion what he wants (assuming it meshes with my values), I can and will defeat every “competitor” no matter how pretty she may be.
Ladies, a word of caution though… When you grab him and you are looking him square in the eyes, go easy on him, you may give the poor fellow a heart attack :-)
